We’re living in an age of information. We have more ways than ever to understand our experiences: there's language for perfectionism, people-pleasing, burnout, ADHD, attachment, nervous system dysregulation, hormonal change. That can be a good thing. Having words for an experience can be a relief. But there’s a point where understanding can stop being particularly useful. You can know why you overcommit and still keep saying yes. You can understand your perfectionism and stil

In previous posts, we've gone through this stage of life one thread at a time. Looked at separately, these can feel like a list of things going wrong. Looked at together, I think they're something else: pieces of the same story, told from different perspectives. Something that feels familiar for many women is trying to return to “being how they were”, but instead they start to feel like they’re only really meeting themself for the first time. The Underlying Story There’s a th

Women rarely bring this one up first. It tends to come out after everything else has already been said: and then there's the rage. Many women experience a moment stops them in their tracks, frightened by the tone in their own voice. That moment when someone does something innocuous and you suddenly snap. Sometimes, you may even feel like you don’t recognise that version of yourself. Most women describe this rage as sudden, disproportionate, and deeply out of character – which